Here are some common signs Narcs will show:
● Really hard for them to see / accept mistakes. Will mostly blame others for it.
● Lie / manipulate facts or people to make themselves look good.
● Live in an unrealistic world of addictions, porn or limitless fame, name, etc.
● Lack any sense of guilt.
● Intentionally provoke you to prove their bad opinion of you
● Playing the Victim
● Disappearing suddenly / emotionally unavailable and re-appearing mostly when they need you.
● Guilt-tripping. Making you feel guilty of something you did in order to make you want to make-up for it.
● Being ignorant. Or playing dumb to get away with things.
● Fear-inducing behaviour by playing cards that make you feel most insecure about them exiting from your life.
● Abusive and putting blame for their anger on you.
● Constant gaslighting.
● When you express to them how they are hurting you, they make you feel that you are responsible for their behaviour.
How to deal with Narcissists
Stop explaining or reasoning with them as they are not here to understand you.
Don’t try to show them their mistakes as they will only blame you.
Stop expecting they will change for you.
Accept s/he is a narcissist and now begin detaching yourself from them
They will always use anger, manipulation, and victimhood to make you feel guilty and gain power over you. So make a healthy choice and exit their life or at least have healthy strong boundaries.
Check my other articles on how to practice the above to deal with a narcissist.
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