During the last Venus retrograde, a client X was struggling with taking decision for marriage. X wanted a love marriage – but over the years, failed relationships, being hurt by others, made them lose faith in Love and X decided to marry via arranged marriage.
You are free to disagree but I’ve always believed Love is the biggest healer specially cause it is also the biggest destroyer and energy is transferrable. X met Y outside arranged marriage during this period but being closed to love ( read- wounded and unhealed ) chose to not give it a chance – however, that person kept putting their best in being their for X in every possible way – but X chose to look at the shortcomings – the flaws – the negative sides in that person — simply to make their heart believe that if I proceed with this person , marriage will not last — this person is not marriage “material”
This happened before Venus retrograde.
Then comes the Venus retrograde and X half-heartedly agreed to Z, a proposal from their family though their feelings were stuck with Y.
X tried to do everything in their capacity to get over Y — and I have seen humans can succeed in numbing their feelings easily given the various ways of distraction we are paralysed with today.
This is when X connected with me. Issues X wanted to talk about were not at all about Y but concerned their health. Clearly, as per psychosomatic branch of Yoga psychology, we started by finding the emotional root cause to their health issues – they had weight issues + fragile Gut health + heart palpitations due to BP ( but it was more of anxiety leading to BP )
Few sessions and they could see that trust issues coming from the past and relationships triggered health sensitivities. We were working on healing and this is also when X was getting engaged ( roka ceremony) via arranged marriage ( precisely why they took sessions to work on health issues to have a better married life ). To note, they never disclosed about Y in sessions as Y was someone they never actually got in a relationship – but continued to deny their feelings in their own mind by giving all reasons and distractions that seemed fit to a wounded heart.
But we weren’t able to see enough results in healing and that’s when I knew I’m missing some data. I asked them,
Me (Psychologist and Astrologer) : “If you were never hurt in love, would you still marry with same excitement in arrange marriage “
He – No.
Next I asked,
Me (Psychologist and Astrologer): “ Who would you have considered or wanted to give a chance if you were never hurt in love”
and that’s finally when they spoke to me about Y.
We were going through Venus retrograde, so emotions came pouring down.
I asked X if they’d like to reach out to Y for marriage. They said No.
Me (Psychologist and Astrologer) “ Why would you not like to give a chance to Y
X answered by giving all reasons of why X should marry Z, including love for parents, instead of focussing “ why should you not choose Y”
I showed X — these reasons don’t hold a chance had you not been hurt in love. But some wounds go so deep they sometimes blind us. But X who was hurt yet patient – said,
He : “Can you heal me and make me marry Z only”
Me (Psychologist and Astrologer)I said “ I will heal you but hope you can see you can’t be fully healed unless you marry Z with a thought , “ I’d have never married Z if I was never hurt in Love.”
He – ” so what should I do “
Me (Psychologist and Astrologer) – ” heal – give love a chance to heal you
– just as you let it destroy you once. “
We worked through trust issues healings of X and X was able to give a chance to Y- eventually both of them getting married
To note, when X was working on healings with open heart – automatically their rishta / marriage with Z got called off – as if some higher power was leading them. This also helped X to approach Y – and celebrating their first anniversary recently – but important to note –
Venus Retrograde made TWO LOVERS GET MARRIED because they chose to reflect and heal themselves. Had X chosen to not heal – they’d have married Z or anyone but the one X truly wanted to be with – and so would Y.
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