• Staying in toxic / unfulfilling relationships
• Being a people pleaser
• Saying ‘Yes’ when you wanted to say ‘No’
• Making yourself available for others even when you are disregarded / taken for granted
• Doing for others more than your comfort allows
• You fear being alone so you force relationships to work
• You believe what people, society, others say negative about you or your future
It would surprise you to know that not only women but also men struggle with abandonment wounds. Once a Male client, was taking sessions for his tummy issues (IBS) Irregular Bowel Syndrome, and sensitive throat.
Now as per Chakra Psychology, I was aware the root cause lies in his childhood and affecting one of the chakras responsible for his current physical issues and this imbalanced chakra is also affecting not only his health but would most definitely also be affecting his relationships.
So I asked him – how is he as a partner in relationships? And this is what he said, ” used and manipulated”. When I probed further, he confessed, he was quite aware, each time in a relationship, that the women he is in love with, are not sincere towards him, instead some would only talk / meet him when they wanted but when he needed them, they were mostly unavailable with some random excuses.
Me – when you were aware they are not into you, why you continued to stick with them
Him – they were important to me. They were my whole life
Me- what were they doing to you or in your life that made you feel they are important?
Him – they were my girlfriend
Me- right. But were they fulfilling your basic needs of having a girlfriend?
Him – not even 1%
Me- then how were they important
Him – I don’t know ?
Me – how was your relationship with your father or mother?
Him – Mother was abused by father often but she never stood for herself
Me- and you?
Him – I tried to stand up for her but she would still succumb to my father.
Me- and your father, how was he to you?
Him – just legally my father, no emotional bond
On further counselling, he could see through his own answers that how much he wanted his father to validate him, appreciate him and love him. But it never happened and in turn, he suffered for long from abandonment wounds leading him to choose partners who were triggering this wound.
He healed with further yogic counselling sessions and realised all his issues so far including ibs and throat sensitivity were due to abandonment wounds. He is healed and leading a much fulfilling life with awareness and more in charge of his in- the – process of healing wounds so he doesn’t get hurt anymore. His IBS healed as much.
You can also book personalised Yogic Chakra Counselling sessions with Ilashrei Anand to heal your issues from the root cause. We hope you take your well-being on priority.