If you Keep chasing those who are emotionally unavailable to You, if you keep thinking they will come back to you someday
If you keep hopes they will change and acknowledge your Love when they are actually least bothered about you in present
Then it’s your intimacy wound.
Your inner-child needs for Love. Security- Acceptance may not have been catered / nourished well enough during your formative years.
Here’s what You can Do To Heal:
Firstly, Do not be delusional about your Intimacy Wound. Accept it and if possible – embrace it. Cry your heart out- journal – etc if needed.
You have to reparent – rewire yourself. This is only possible if you accept that now you’re a grown up individual and whatever happened in the childhood / past cannot be carried by you as wounds forever . It’s your responsibility alone to fix it.
Allow yourself enough space to accept what happened with you – how you were not accepted enough – given love + security that your emotional diet needed. Instead of blame game – choose to take the responsibility to provide it to yourself.
This can happen only if you Stop focusing on what unfortunate incidents happened in the past with you — and accept that everyone has some battles to overcome – this one is Yours.
If needed, let yourself Grieve to your heart’s content, for what you didn’t have / get.
Forgive yourself for the mistakes you’ve made in past + present due to Intimacy Wound.
Attain Vidhya of what healthy relationships are and focus on key ingredients that lacked in yours. This will also show you your trigger areas.
Create a sos list of how to handle your triggers better next time. Remind these to yourself each time.
Affirmation:
” This is not me. this is my wound- and i’m much more than these wounds. I no longer allow them to take control over my life.”
Keep a full open heart with awareness of who you truly are – with your wounds in the healing process. This prevents further damage.
Allow yourself to be authentic, vulnerable and accepting of what your needs are. Honour your sensitivities. The beauty is – the more you accept yourself – the more you begin to change and heal for good.
Because clearly, unless you fully accept yourself and know who you truly are – how do you let go of what you least like in you.
You can also book personalised Yogic Counselling sessions with Ilashrei Anand to heal your issues from root cause. We hope you take your well-being on priority.